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nubiana-americana:

nubiana-americana:

nubiana-americana:

ADHD/Executive Dysfunction thing I hate #368432:

Genuinely planning to & looking forward to going to an event for weeks…

Then when the day comes, you end up having to pull out because you’re tired/overwhelmed/under-prepared, and already know you would have to sacrifice so much more energy & time you barely have, in order to go.

The worse thing about this situation is that it only ever leaves you with two choices:

1. Go, probably enjoy yourself while you’re there, but afterwards be completely drained /exhausted (which usually carries over into the following days), plus out of time for whatever other tasks you still need to get done that day.

or

2. Not go, and feel guilty about not showing up and / or regretful that you had to miss out yet again.

You know what helps though?

Just realizing that I can’t do it all, and thinking of how much stuff I already do when I don’t feel like it, because I have to. Things like:

-getting up in the morning

-getting ready for work every week day/church on Sunday

-driving there

-being there (because these are all separate tasks that each require their own energy)

-required socializing in those work/church settings

-driving home

-making dinner

-going to Bible study on a separate day

-showering

-straightening up my apartment

-doing dishes

-picking out clothes for the next day

This may not sound like a lot to others, but doing these things while constantly having to battle your ADHD/executive dysfunction in order to get them done… is labor. It’s exhausting.

And these are things in my life that are nonnegotiable for the most part, as in no matter how I’m feeling I still have to do them.

So if I can’t make it out to a non mandatory / social event, because I’ve been doing all of this all week, and now that it’s the weekend all I really want to do is stay in & recharge ?

Then so be it.

We’re talking about 12 tasks that I accomplish almost everyday throughout the week, tasks that are draining for me but pretty much have to get done no matter what. And this list doesn’t even account for occasional but still mandatory tasks like going grocery shopping.

So 12 tasks x 6 days out of the week I typically have to do them.

That’s 72 reoccurring, separate, energy-depleting tasks that I get done (at least), during a week.

And I’m feeling bad about sitting out from 1 event / outing? That’s not even mandatory ?

I need that time & space that I would’ve had to sacrifice in order to go.

Because as soon as the weekend’s over, for me it’s right back to that exhausting grind I just escaped.

As in, 72 more tasks (at least) that I’ll have to sacrifice my time and energy towards as soon as Sunday night hits.

So I deserve to rest while I actually have the opportunity. Without having to feel guilty or even regretful about it.

studyeliza:

gaypriori:

punk-memelord-enthusiast:

skeletonmug:

dicksandwhiches:

Bayard Rustin was an openly gay Black man who was Martin Luther King’s right hand man. He planned the Million Man March and was subject to scrutiny for his sexuality and deemed a “deviant” and “pervert”.

Bayard Rustin can be found in nearly every picture of MLK yet he has undoubtedly been erased from history. We have to fix that.

Well then, let’s bring that name back.

Bayard Rustin, openly gay, human rights activist, proud black man.

(the guy on the left in case you wondered)

Yeah he was literally the guy who was the head of planning the March on Washington.

If you want to learn more about him, there’s a great documentary on him called Brother Outsider: The Life of Bayard Rustin

You can watch the full documentary here (until March 31st, 2016)

I did a research project on him, Ella Baker, Claudette Colvin and Stokely Carmichael comparing their contributions to the Civil Rights Movement to the lack of recognition and misrepresentation they received in commonly used high school American History textbooks. All of these people played major roles in the Civil Rights Movement—almost on par with MLK—yet they go largely unnoticed or unfairly pushed aside not only during their time, but even now in classes on American History. These men and women deserve to be remembered.

socialjusticeissue:

feywildwest:

feywildwest:

employees should be allowed to steal, actually

idk. yesterday was a slow day and at the end of it, I still stared into a cash drawer, one of three, that had more than my rent in it, even if you only count the 20s. I spent a lot of that day trying to calculate in my head how many hours of work equal one pair of pants, let alone how many hours of work equals the fun thing I want to do next month.

I feel a cough coming on, because I work in a drug store, and all of my customers are sick. I always feel a little bit sick, now. I can’t afford to eat well enough to keep my body healthy. Cough medicine is worth two hours and 20 minutes of work. Our store probably bought a case of cough medicine for they price we’re selling one box. If this cough gets worse, I might have to call out, which will cost me more than the medicine in the long run- but that doesn’t give me the money to buy the medicine right now. I stock a case onto the shelf. I don’t buy any.

A mom wrangling three crying, sick kids enters my line and sets two types of children’s medicine down, says they’re both on sale and thank god for that. I ring her up, and she gets very quiet, because she misread the sign, and her total is twice as high as she was expecting. Her youngest screams in the cart, because she’s burning up with fever. Her mother very quietly asks, please, she’s so sorry, if I could please take the more expensive one off her total.

I agree, I move the box below the counter, and when she’s not looking, I slip it into her bag. I pray as hard as I can that if she notices the “mistake” she says nothing, because I so desperately want her to have that medicine. The store has lost profit at the cost of a child’s health. I don’t bat an eye. This is a terminable offense. If I’m presented with the same situation tonight, I’ll do it in a heartbeat.

The myth of evil employees stealing from the company falls apart the second you realize the company would shoot you dead to make a profit. This isn’t two equal players, one of whom is stealing from the other. This is someone fighting for survival versus someone fighting to make an extra million. It’s not equal.

Employees should be able to steal, actually.

I tried to give a lady a bag of rice once. She was clearly going through hard times and that rice would have been helpful so I slipped it in. Unfortunately she noticed before she left and brought it back to the front counter saying it wasn’t on her receipt and could she pay for it now please.

If you are a customer, and the checkout person ‘accidentally’ puts food or any product in your bag without charging you for it, and you can safely leave without it being discovered, PLEASE DON’T SAY ANYTHING. The checkout person risked their job to help you. Take the help. (Also they are more likely to get in trouble for you 'being honest’). We need to support each other in this capitalist system where your health and safety are commodities you pay for rather than a human right. Take the help when offered. And pay it forward to someone else who needs help when you can.

thegreatanimal:

zzzanzzz-deactivated20201124:

starlightandtears:

starlightandtears:

At this point, Twitter makes me not want to hear what any single person who is not a fat Black woman has to say about Lizzo. Like, block or mute her and move on. Shut up talking about her.

People cannot seem to understand that you can critique her without resulting to or enabling fatphobic abuse. And also, I’m tired of people who would’ve gone “YAAAAAS” if she’d been thin and have plenty of publicly half naked thin women all in their likes telling anyone what to feel about it. Do they hear themselves???

Ugh, everyone shut up and stream Jerome and Tempo.

specialty38-deactivated20200930:

aidashakur:

The fact that everything that went on in my life this year didn’t kill me is my biggest flex

TRULYYYYYYYYY REALLY AND HONESTLY